友谊

''世界上用得最普遍的名词是朋友， 但是最难得到的也是朋友。 友谊，是人生最美好的无价之宝。 友谊，是那心灵的神秘结合者！ 是生活的美化者，也是社会的巩固者.''

什么是友谊？ 友谊的定义是什么？ 是所谓的有福同享，有难同当的吗？是这样吗？刚刚读了一便文章是关于天蝎座的性格与对一份感情的态度，我本身是蝎子，里面所说的我大部分都很认同。尤其是第五，是说　‘天蝎怕孤独，对于感情也十分敏感，对方的一个小小的动作或眼神，他们都会看在眼里记在心里，接下来的事情就是天蝎开始猜想对方的心思了，猜来猜去，是为了让对方感觉到自己的用心良苦和自己对恋人深刻的爱。’　这里我们把恋人便成朋友。我承认我是爱钻牛角尖的人，对一份友情的看待也是很严格，很挑剔。所以能当我的朋友的都是我认为是不错的，不会假惺惺的（所谓的虚伪），也会同样的看这份友情很重的，对彼此是信任以及诚实。除此之外，我也会在整个过程中慢慢的观察，观察它的变化，它的成长。同时也像文章里所说蝎子对一份感情的敏感，所以对于一个朋友的一举一动都看在它眼里也感受在心里。

最近，或这学期，我看到了一个不一样的你，　也感受到了不一样的你。不懂是不是自已随着岁月的成长，思想的不一样，还是增加了敏感的率率，总是看了很久，想了很久，也观察了很久，最终答案所分析出来的都是一样———你变了。　变得很难与你沟通，变得我需要用另外一个心态来对你，我也怕你了。　怎么了？究竟是怎么了？在我脑海里旋律这问号，不想去感受我所感受的，不想测疑这份友情。我知道你并没有恶意的存在。只是加了一点点的私心，加了一点点对友情的不信任。一直在想，为什么会便成这样子的，我以我角度分析，也以你角度分析过了。在我这角度呢，可能是我最近一直忙着打工，功课上都是你一直在帮我打理，有时甚至还需要你的答案来渡过难关。也许，这样让你觉得不值，很难受，也可能会产生一点的不甘心。如果是那样，我乐意向你道歉。而在你的角度分析，我猜想是不是你最近参加了额外活动，面对的人是复杂的，自己的心也变了复杂。因为我看到现在的你是有心机的，笑意不纯的，动作是敷衍的，说出的话是不真的，是自私的。我对你同时也失去了信任，因为我看到你对我的谎言，也发现到了。对你的每一句活都是有疑惑的。所以有时不懂如何去答复你，很矛盾。也许，应该是你不甘心所以不想分享。可是，这已经是－－不是你了。想象以前的日子，我怀念，都找不回了。　我不想说出来，因为我知道你不是很容易接受别人所给对你的看法。　所以我沉默。你我之间的友谊有了问号，感叹号，不晓得何时会挂上一个句号。希望是我们一直在电视据里想看到的美好结局，完美的句号。

对于这份友谊，我努力过，希望你看到。　
对于这份友谊，我珍惜过，希望你感受到。
对于这份友谊，我诚实的，希望你也是。
对于这份友谊，我开心过，希望你也一样。
对于这份友谊，我心痛过，希望你了解。
对于这份友谊，我不想失去。

我更希望奇迹出现，给我以前的感觉。。。

开希，你就是在我心中目前唯一的一个。不会变质的友谊。

祝大家有

‘友谊永固’　的一个。

完笔
想念你的知己

上

'little' chat--^^

suddenly think of you so come up here have a little chat with you~
how are you there dye? been a long time nvr heard from you. feel quiet inquisitive about your life there. i don't know, and no one ll tell me too cuz they are too, don't know how you at there. So, i jz can assume that u are doing good there as you own a gud kind of heart and polite. ^^ sure be! hehe.

it's already one year and above you left us. I think the situation now ll be different if you are still be here. Maybe we ll go for travel again, maybe you now studying in kl, or maybe you are accountant work for a big firm, and maybe now, you got a pretty girlfriend and so on, or maybe, you planning to marry this year, haha..cheerful! if the scene ll be wat i mentioned jz now, wow, how fantastic of it~ well~ it's jz an imagination~need to come back to the reality too-that you have left go be in somewhere which is full of new challenges and new life~you gonna fine~

The blog created for you also, almost year above, i noticed that, the people who come here to drop the comment become less and lesser. Here, i can make an explanation to you.- They are too busy with their activities. Some of them maybe busy with their honey or darling, some of them maybe busy with the activities which organized in their school, some of them even busy will their coming up final exam. The times have gone too fast, everything just like a dream. Just an eyes, can't believe that i coming to 21 year old dye. Can't accept to the reality. People grown up, the things come more and more, and the responsible too, more and more. Have to think seriously, and formally about the coming future. If really cant find out the way you exactly you want to walk through, it would be tough. and now, i am facing with that problem. Afraid, nervous and looking forward to it. speechless about that. recently has thought too much of it~ gonna be crazy soon, so better stop to talk about the future.

let's talk about the current life here~ same as usual~ wake up, eat, school, assignments, presentations, exam, then sleep. kaka~ that's all to describe my current life style. oh ya. less one~working~ i start my working life too~ hehe..well, tired, bored, yet have fun~ hehe.. fun? dun think so.==''....tell you, i have been tried a few jobs, but i like none of it i think. A question at here, how do you know whether you like your job or not? damn confusing on it~ finding the answer by trying the job one by one. But parents them scare i ll be cheated by some people..erm. this world is full of faked people, jz depend on you how to face only.. maybe, i can get other opinion from here..( if ppl read the blog that posted la~ hehe^^).. ..i wonder, why the clerk can sit for whole day in the office to do the jobs, why the salesman can run everywhere to get their target, where do they find the motivation to continue with the life which i described it as boring and tiring lifestyle~ perhaps, they like their job..ahm..hope to get response through here~

does people think of migrate? they wish to migrate or not? which meant that they don't wan to stay in the current country and migrate to their dreamed country? for me, i have such thinking~why? bcz i dislike to be staying at here? how to migrate? jz marry to there? haha~ new life~fresh!~wow~daylight dream onli i think~ but i wish to get tht~hehe..selfish thinking i think~

actually i tended to have a short talk only, but now, it's seem to be a long talk here..haha~
got to go~ i am damn hungry but nite dye~canot eat~ so, jz sleep~

nite^^
have nice day~

wondering of ==

kai hee, how are you there?
long time din come out here dye..feel like wan to chat with you~

i wonder, i wonder~
i wonder wat exactly i like to do?
been tried so many things dye, seems like all the things not suit to me.
what is the exact thing that i prefer to do? every jobs that i tried, it's seem like for me easy to give up. easy to lazy, easy to give up, easy to find an excuse, the enthusiastic of working seems like suck! is that wat i wan? blaming..keep blaming on myself why? i wonder why?
i won't be success if the situation remains.i ll hate myself more and more~
i cannot continue to be like that...i have to find out wat exactly i wan to do?but i dun know..can u give me a direction? i jz nd an exact direction. please~i lost my way.lost~lost~

Get on with what you want!

halo to you again.

Feels like nth to do so, sienz, hollow, and down, so come here to have a talk with you.
Recently i am fighting with my target to do parttime job to achieve the amount that i have set by my own. Have been trying to apply for many vacancies in a same times, wish to get more chances to work. Actually my parents are not agree with my planning as they feel that now is an important time to study but not for work as i still can, work in the future time. Ya. i cannot say they are wrong and also, i cannot say they are totally right. It's because every steps that i take, every steps that i leaps do have my own thinking and planning.

Ya. it's true to say that my purpose to work the part time job is to earn some extra money to spend and keep some of it into the bank for my future, they can disagree with me upon to this point but they cannot stop me from gaining experience from outside earlier than other people. The situation now is different to the previous one since to nowadays, there are a lot of degree holders in outside fighting for the good, comfortable, higher position and good payment of the job. If i don't try to make myself to be high demanded and never take any action to improve myself during my degree, it would be very tough for me to compete with other people in future of time.

Last few days, i just followed a friend to a dinner which is quiet a large activity that organized by GBBM and other communties where there was attended by Ministry who has owned a high position in politic. It's a formal place which doing the formal things. This event also, attended by a lot of political's member and i was given chances to talk with some old folks who has owned a lot of experiences in the working community. Some of them are engineer for a company and some of them do own business. We had touched a bit related to the academic, they told me, the important to get high demand from big company or bosses is your experience but not the result which certified in the certificate, the cert is only a piece of paper, it's show nothing, what actually they focus on when they interviewing for students is their performance on that time and the experience they have. I of cos, was agreed with the point from the beginning of cos support him and say exactly right! They has proved my right thinking. Let justify if there are two different students who one with a good result but none experience and other with normal result but experienced, who you think the more chance he will be selected? for me, i would say the latter one as the reality has showed me to that. Well, working during your study time is not something wrong, it's better for you and me if able to do it for the future. If you are able to manage the time wisely, it's will become not a matter to work.

Doing different part time job actually can let you learn a lot of something new, it's also ll approach you with different people and it's time for you to learn how to communicate with them. Maybe it will be hard and difficult for you for the very first time if you are not used to work in sales before and so am i. For me, i thought that being as a promoter is something that humiliated and sound like need to beg to them and ask them to buy the product and it's ashamed if u call them but ignored by them. But after try to do the job, i feel different, actually it's not humiliated and nothing to be ashamed at all, it's a way to communicate with them and it's other way not to be ignored by them. Yet another, i also realize that i cannot require all the people to listen to me as there are a lot of different human there.

so, hope you all don't think that working during study is something that bad which ll cause you result drop from sem to sem. it's not a matter if you could manage the time wisely and your mood separately. i am still, in the learning process to manage the time and mood to study and to work. it's one of the professionalism know how to separate the private and non-private. bless me ya! =)

You have to give it a bit of thought if you want to get the best out of it!

Hey, boy! the same question remain here~ how are you there? everything goes smooth or not?
Chinese New Year is coming soon, it's mean that u leave us almost for a year already. Wondering that, what do you do at there....studying? working? enjoying?? ^^

Actually i have a test for tomorrow, but i have no mood to study as the mode of the Chinese new year on already. And suddenly come out of you, so come here to chit chat here.^^For me, the test for tomorrow quiet tough as lecturer required everything come out from the cases. I ll getting crazy soon as every of the case is very long and full of the alien's words/sentences which used by the judges. Damn hard to understand man! Especially the case laid down from England. huh..sighing....

Recently i am trying to apply a course in Prague, it's about the Global Leadership Program-me located in Chales University at Prague. It's seem like very hard to apply for it as there are a lot of competence outside there, however, i won't give up and I ll endeavoring to get it as it is my dream hoping to study abroad during degree time. Actually i was late to apply the program and i missed for the interview session for once, fortunately and luckily the lecturer is willing to give me an opportunity to have the interview again. Though my performance during the interview was not very well, i still happy because i was still given chance by him to be interviewed. Afterward, he told me that the student whom selected ll be informed sooner. and i hope i ll be one of the selected student to go for the next higher level of interview. You must always look after me o.

A friend told me, if you never tried, you are not qualified to say U CAN'T. So, i am trying now, at least i still own a qualification to say i can't/i failed.

Okay. midnight late d. see you next time.

一年了。。。

再过多两天，
又是2月1日了。。
一年了...

你过得还好吗？
想必大家依然还会想起你...

新年将近，
在那里的你，
买了新年衣吗？
新年要有新气象....
才够帅^^

人生学会随缘，才能活得自在

越多事情你越想得到它，反而往往会远离你，正所谓凡事不要太过强求

　　在这个世界上，凡事不可能一帆风顺，事事如意，总会有烦恼和 忧愁。当不顺心的事时常萦绕着我们的时候，我们该如何面对呢?“随缘自适，烦恼即去”。其实，随缘是一种进取，是智者的行为，愚者的借口。何为随?随不是 跟随，是顺其自然，不怨恨，不躁进，不过度，不强求；随不是随便，是把握机缘，不悲观，不刻板，不慌乱，不忘形；随是一种达观，是一种洒脱，是一份人生的成熟，一份人情的练达。

　 　何为缘?世间万事万物皆有相遇、相随、相乐的可能性。有可能即有缘，无可能即无缘。缘，无处不有，无时不在。你、我、他都在缘的网络之中。常言说，“有 缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相识”。万里之外，异国他乡，陌生人对你哪怕是相视一笑，这便是缘。也有的虽心仪已久，却相会无期。缘，有聚有散，有始有终。有 人悲叹：“天下没有不散的筵席。既然要散，又何必聚?”缘是一种存在，是一个过程。

　　“有缘即住无缘去，一任清风送白云。”人生有所求，求而得之，我之所喜；求而不得，我亦无忧。若如此，人生哪里还会有什么烦恼可言?苦乐随缘，得失随缘，以“人世”的态度去耕耘，以“出世”的态度去收获，这就是随缘人生的最高境界。

　　“随缘”，常常被一些人理解为不需要有所作为，听天由命，由此也成为逃避问题和困难的理由。殊不知，随缘不是放弃追求，而是让人以豁达的心态去面对生活；随缘是一种智慧，可以让人在狂热的环境中，依然拥有恬静的心态，冷静的头脑；随缘是一种修养，是饱经人世的沧桑，是阅尽人情的经验，是透支人生的顿悟。随缘不是没有原则、没有立场，更不是随便马虎。“缘”需要很多条件才能成立，若能随顺因缘而不违背真理，这才叫“随缘”。

　　生活中，常有人会有这样的感慨和迷惑：“为什么有的人不喜欢我?”“为什么有的人不理解我?”“为什么会是这样?”若从随缘的角度看，不喜欢不需要任何理由，喜欢也不需要任何理由；理解不需要任何理由，不理解也不需要任何理由。缘分就是缘分，不需要任何理由。

　　大千世界芸芸众生，可谓是有事必有缘，如喜缘，福缘，人缘，财缘，机缘，善缘，恶缘等。万事随缘，随顺自然，这不仅是禅者的态度，更是我们快乐人生所需要的一种精神。随缘是一种平和的生存态度，也是一种生存的禅境。“宠辱不惊，闲看庭前花开花落；去留无意，漫随天外云卷云舒。”放得下宠辱，那便是安详自在。吃饭时吃饭，睡觉时睡觉。凡事不妄求于前，不追念于后，从容平淡，自然达观，随心，随情，随理，便识得有事随缘皆有禅味。在这繁忙的名利场中，若能常得片刻清闲，放松身心，静心体悟，日久功深，你便会识得自己放下诸缘后的本来面目：活泼泼的，清静无染的菩提觉性。人们获得缘不是靠奋斗和创造，而是用本能的智慧去领悟去判断。

　　佛家多讲随缘，有“随缘不变，不变随缘”、“随缘，莫攀缘”等说法。“随缘”不是随便行事、因循苟且，而是随顺当前环境因缘，从善如流；“不变”不是墨守成规、冥顽不化，而是要择善固守。随缘不变，则是不模糊立场，不丧失原则。就在世间上做人，要通情达理、圆融做事，这样才能够达到事理相融。

　　随缘不变，则是不违背真理。庄子妻死，他知道生死如春夏秋冬四季的变化运行，既不能改变，也不可 抗拒，所以他能“顺天安命，鼓盆而歌”；陆贾《新语》云：“不违天时，不夺物性。”明白宇宙人生都是因缘和合，缘聚则成，缘灭则散，才能在迁流变化的无常 中，安身立命，随遇而安。生活中，如果能在原则下恪守不变，在小细节处随缘行道，自然能随心自在而不失正道。

　　随缘，是一种胸怀，是一种成熟，是对自我内心的一种自信和把握。读懂随缘的人，总能在风云变幻、艰难坎坷的生活中，收放自如、游刃有余；总能在逆境中，找寻到前行的方向，保持坦然愉快的心情。随缘，是对现实正确、清醒的认识，是对人生彻悟之后的精神自由，是“聚散离合本是缘”的达观，“得即高歌失即休”的超然，更是“一蓑烟雨任平生”的从容。拥有一份随缘之心，你就会发现，天空中无论是阴云密布，还是阳光灿烂；生活的道路上无论是坎坷还是畅达，心中总是会拥有一份平静和恬淡。